Help with Grief and Grieving!
Are you mourning the loss of a loved one?
YOU ARE NOT ALONE - I HAVE BEEN THERE!
4405 East-West Hwy., Suite 311A, Bethesda, MD 20814
(Two blocks from Bethesda Metro)
1600 Prince St., Suite 102, Alexandria, VA 22314
(Two blocks from King St. Metro)
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Dr. Weide's PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH GRIEF -- Please Read!
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Please contact Dr. WEIDE for additional INFORMATION or an appointment.
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By phone: (240) 229-1893 and (703) 548-3866.
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Please read on below!
My personal experience:
When I received the phone call at five o’clock in the afternoon that my
husband had died in his late forties, all of a sudden I was in
a place I had never been to before. And in a dimension only I knew -
and no one near me. I did not sleep nor eat for three days. But I still
had enough sense to wait until 4 a.m. on the first night to call my
closest relatives, living in France. Four o’clock in the morning here is
ten o’clock in the morning over there.
Identify where you are at - and understand the differences between "sadness" and "traumatic grief"!
Discuss what learning to manage grief means
Recognize the symptoms of trauma and grief
Understand that they are natural and universal for everyone in your situation
Learn skills to cope with the symptoms
Understand the importance of the mental health aspects of grief and of working with a state-licensed mental health expert
Discuss the course of grief over our lifetime
Learn to create a support system
Discuss the misconceived expectations and assumptions of your environment and how to handle them
You have the right to be assertive with others!
importance of physical health (morbidity and mortality rates among the
bereaved are three times the national average for the first three years)
and trauma-related health problems, recent or as aggravation of earlier
conditions: cardiac, neurological, orthopedic, gastrointestinal,
endocrine, blood pressure, cholesterol
Discuss how to take care of yourself including preventive medical care
Discuss symptoms and why they may not make sense to a physician
The importance of exercise
The use of alcohol or drugs
What is post-traumatic stress? What to do?
What is depression? What to do?
What is anxiety? What to do?
The myths of anti-depressants and sleep medication
The importance of retelling your experience based on hearing the experience of other group members
The questions which have no answer and how to live with them
The FUTURE (often a threatening concept) and how to approach it
Differences in coping with grief between WOMEN and MEN.
My message to you:
Yes, we can learn to manage the grief and eventually live better with the loss but it can not be compared to "losing weight": "Just do it!" Sounds familiar? I hear this quoted regularly from those who come to see me.
If you're looking for someone who will reassure you that what you're
going through now - after the traumatic sudden, untimely, or violent loss of a spouse, partner, child, sibling or other loved one, or after having witnessed or contributed to their terminal care
- will be over in a short time, I'm not the right person. (I know
that your environment wants you "to move on" and "get a life" after five
months, at the most!) Also, I am unable to make any promises using terms
such as healing, recovery, stages, "letting go" or “grief journey."
Coping with grief is too complex for that, and there are no 21-day
What I can assure you of:
Since I lived through It and came out of It the other end, you will too.
Most of us do (we will discuss how to take care of yourself so that you
can beat the statistics). How you will cope, how long it will take, and
what your life will be at the other end can not be predicted in detail
and with precision. Nor what sense you will eventually make out of your
experience. Only that you will.
What I can tell you is that the It holding you in Its grip
right now will eventually let go. No, you are not going crazy. And
whatever you may do, think, feel or perceive – as different as it may be
from your earlier self – is typical for living through trauma. Whether
it is memory loss, difficulty concentrating, irritability, perceiving
things which turn out not be there, involuntarily reliving time and
again the worst moments, possibly flashbacks and disturbing dreams – not
to mention loss of appetite, sleep and energy – is, unfortunately, a
natural component of your experience.
And so are the reactions and
actions on the part of your ENVIRONMENT - even the most well intentioned
individual JUST DOES NOT KNOW what you are really going through.
Learning to coach your environment is part of the grief work we do.
What I can also assure you of: You are not alone.
One of the amazing things I discovered after my husband died was the
world of survivors. It had never occurred to me that a young spouse
could die. And that a child could die before you had been inconceivable!
Survivors often are silent because they feel isolated and
But all of a sudden I realized that we are a
group out there, bound by a common experience and with an intuitive
understanding of what the other person is going through. We are linked
by a bond known only to those WHO HAVE BEEN THERE. Whether you are a
WOMAN or a MAN does not matter. We understand each other, and there is
comfort in not being alone. Even without words.
Because I have experienced the comfort of not being alone, I have established the Grief and Traumatic Bereavement Counseling Program offering individual counseling, help for families, the Adult Bereavement Support Group, and the Nationwide Telephone Grief Support Network.
These are the goals and subjects of individual, family and group grief counseling:
Please contact Dr. WEIDE for additional information
or an appointment:
By phone: (240) 229-1893 and (703) 548-3866
Old Town, 1600 Prince Street, Suite 102; Alexandria, VA 22314
(Two blocks from King St. Metro)
4405 East-West Hwy., Suite 311A; Bethesda, MD 20814
(Two blocks from Bethesda Metro)
For e-mail, please click here!
YOU ARE NOT ALONE - WE HAVE BEEN THERE!
Dr. Weide provides services for the following
communities and zip code areas:
Bethesda, Cabin John, Chevy Chase, Colesville, Fort Washington,
Gaithersburg, Garret Park, Germantown, Glen Echo, Kensington, North
Potomac, Potomac, Silver Spring, Takoma Park, Alexandria, Arlington,
Annandale, Belle Haven, Fort Hunt, Chantilly, Frankonia, Great Falls,
McLean, Mount Vernon, Reston, Merrifield, Seven Corners, Woodbridge,
Falls Church, Fairfax, Fairfax County, Loudoun County, Montgomery
County, Prince George's County, Prince William County, Washington, D.C.
22301, 22302, 22303, 22304, 22305, 22306, 22307, 22308, 22309, 22310,
22311, 22312, 22313, 22314, 22315, 22320, 22321, 22331, 22332, 22333,