Help with Grief and Grieving!

Are you mourning the loss of a loved one?

YOU ARE NOT ALONE - I HAVE BEEN THERE!

4405 East-West Hwy., Suite 310, Bethesda, MD 20814
(Two blocks from Bethesda Metro)
801 N. Pitt St., Suite 113, Alexandria, VA 22314 "Old Town"


Please click to e-mail me, Dr. Ursula Weide would be glad to respond, no obligations! Or call me at (240) 229-1893.

Grief Counseling, Bereavement Counseling for All Ages and Relationships, Crisis Help:

  • Individuals, Couples, Families, Children, Adolescents
  • Prenatal and Perinatal Loss
  • FREE Telephone Consultation
  • Small Grief Support Groups
  • Crisis Counseling and Debriefing for Organizations
  • Expert Grief/Trauma Evaluations and Testimony (All Ages)
  • Traumatic Pet Loss and Grief
    (Please call 240-229-1893 for the quickest response)
  • Plus Comprehensive Practice of Psychology: Transitions, Anxiety, Depression, Relationships
  • Insurance-Reimbursable: Please ask for details

  • Dr. Weide's PERSONAL EXPERIENCE WITH GRIEF -- Please Read!

    Licensed Psychologist
    National Certified Counselor
    Fellow of Thanatology (Death, Grief and Bereavement Specialist)


    Dr. Weide on Grief and Bereavement on Channel 8

    Coping with Grief, a short video by Dr. Weide


    Please contact Dr. WEIDE for additional INFORMATION or an appointment. She will be glad to speak with you or respond to your e-mail, no obligation whatsoever.
  • By phone: (240) 229-1893 and (703) 548-3866.
  • By e-mail, please click here!


  • Nationwide Loss and Grief Telephone Support Network
    Please click on Telephone Support

    Please read on below!



    My personal experience
    :
    When I received the phone call at five o’clock in the afternoon that my husband had died in his late forties, all of a sudden I was in a place I had never been to before. And in a dimension only I knew - and no one near me. I did not sleep nor eat for three days. But I still had enough sense to wait until 4 a.m. on the first night to call my closest relatives, living in France. Four o’clock in the morning here is ten o’clock in the morning over there.

    My message to you:
    Yes, we can learn to manage the grief and eventually live better with the loss but it can not be compared to "losing weight": "Just do it!" Sounds familiar? I hear this quoted regularly from those who come to see me.

    If you're looking for someone who will reassure you that what you're going through now - after the traumatic sudden, untimely, or violent loss of a spouse, partner, child, sibling or other loved one, or after having witnessed or contributed to their terminal care - will be over in a short time, I'm not the right person. (I know that your environment wants you "to move on" and "get a life" after five months, at the most!) Also, I am unable to make any promises using terms such as healing, recovery, stages, "letting go" or “grief journey." Coping with grief is too complex for that, and there are no 21-day miracles.

    What I can assure you of:
    Since I lived through It and came out of It the other end, you will too. Most of us do (we will discuss how to take care of yourself so that you can beat the statistics). How you will cope, how long it will take, and what your life will be at the other end can not be predicted in detail and with precision. Nor what sense you will eventually make out of your experience. Only that you will.

    What I can tell you is that the It holding you in Its grip right now will eventually let go. No, you are not going crazy. And whatever you may do, think, feel or perceive – as different as it may be from your earlier self – is typical for living through trauma. Whether it is memory loss, difficulty concentrating, irritability, perceiving things which turn out not be there, involuntarily reliving time and again the worst moments, possibly flashbacks and disturbing dreams – not to mention loss of appetite, sleep and energy – is, unfortunately, a natural component of your experience.

    And so are the reactions and actions on the part of your ENVIRONMENT - even the most well intentioned individual JUST DOES NOT KNOW what you are really going through. Learning to coach your environment is part of the grief work we do.

    What I can also assure you of: You are not alone. One of the amazing things I discovered after my husband died was the world of survivors. It had never occurred to me that a young spouse could die. And that a child could die before you had been inconceivable! Survivors often are silent because they feel isolated and painfully misunderstood.

    But all of a sudden I realized that we are a group out there, bound by a common experience and with an intuitive understanding of what the other person is going through. We are linked by a bond known only to those WHO HAVE BEEN THERE. Whether you are a WOMAN or a MAN does not matter. We understand each other, and there is comfort in not being alone. Even without words.

    Because I have experienced the comfort of not being alone, I have established the Grief and Traumatic Bereavement Counseling Program offering individual counseling, help for families, the Adult Bereavement Support Group, and the Nationwide Telephone Grief Support Network.

    These are the goals and subjects of individual, family and group grief counseling:

  • Identify where you are at - and understand the differences between "sadness" and "traumatic grief"!
  • Discuss what learning to manage grief means
  • Recognize the symptoms of trauma and grief
  • Understand that they are natural and universal for everyone in your situation
  • Learn skills to cope with the symptoms
  • Understand the importance of the mental health aspects of grief and of working with a state-licensed mental health expert
  • Discuss the course of grief over our lifetime
  • Learn to create a support system
  • Discuss the misconceived expectations and assumptions of your environment and how to handle them
  • You have the right to be assertive with others!
  • Discuss the importance of physical health (morbidity and mortality rates among the bereaved are three times the national average for the first three years)
  • Prevent grief and trauma-related health problems, recent or as aggravation of earlier conditions: cardiac, neurological, orthopedic, gastrointestinal, endocrine, blood pressure, cholesterol
  • Discuss how to take care of yourself including preventive medical care
  • Discuss symptoms and why they may not make sense to a physician
  • The importance of exercise
  • The use of alcohol or drugs
  • What is post-traumatic stress? What to do?
  • What is depression? What to do?
  • What is anxiety? What to do?
  • The myths of anti-depressants and sleep medication
  • The importance of retelling your experience based on hearing the experience of other group members
  • The questions which have no answer and how to live with them
  • The FUTURE (often a threatening concept) and how to approach it
  • Differences in coping with grief between WOMEN and MEN.

    Please contact Dr. WEIDE for additional information
    or an appointment:

  • By phone: (240) 229-1893 and (703) 548-3866

    Old Town, 801 N. Pitt Street, Suite 113; Alexandria, VA 22314
    4405 East-West Hwy., Suite 310; Bethesda, MD 20814
    (Two blocks from Bethesda Metro)

  • For e-mail, please click here!

    YOU ARE NOT ALONE - WE HAVE BEEN THERE!

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    Dr. Weide provides services for the following
    communities and zip code areas:
    Rockville, Bethesda, Cabin John, Chevy Chase, Colesville, Fort Washington, Gaithersburg, Garret Park, Germantown, Glen Echo, Kensington, North Potomac, Potomac, Silver Spring, Takoma Park, Alexandria, Arlington, Annandale, Belle Haven, Fort Hunt, Chantilly, Frankonia, Great Falls, McLean, Mount Vernon, Reston, Merrifield, Seven Corners, Woodbridge, Falls Church, Fairfax, Fairfax County, Loudoun County, Montgomery County, Prince George's County, Prince William County, Washington, D.C. 22301, 22302, 22303, 22304, 22305, 22306, 22307, 22308, 22309, 22310, 22311, 22312, 22313, 22314, 22315, 22320, 22321, 22331, 22332, 22333, 22334, 22336.